Change is hard.
Jump on Pinterest or Instagram and search “change my life”. Thousands of memes, pins, quotes and pictures are there to inspire you. You get excited. Determined. Ready to go. Let’s do this! That feeling lasts for a few minutes or even a few days but eventually it fades. And you are left standing there, wondering why you always fall short of where you want to be. Creating your life is damn hard work.
Change is hard at first, messy in the middle and gorgeous at the end. ~ Robin Sharma
Why is it so hard?
Fear. It always comes down to fear. We fear the unknown. We fear discomfort, confrontation, and what other people will think. We want safety, security and the familiar more than we want to create our own destiny. It is much easier to ride the current that everyone else is flowing with than to grab your raft and find a different river.
We are terrified of our own creative power. To own that much power means we have to accept full responsibility for the lives we lead. ~ Shannon Hansen
Intentions alone aren’t the answer.
I can set intentions all day long, but if those intentions aren’t backed up by decisive action I ain’t changing anything. All I’m doing is fantasizing. Don’t get me wrong, all change starts with intention but it can’t end with it. The dirty little secret of manifesting is that you have to actually do something in order to manifest the life you want to live. Failing to take action that aligns with your intentions = staying stuck in the same place.
The answer is having an intentional plan and working that plan.
Anything is achievable if it’s broken down into little bite size pieces. Take this blog post for example. I am an author, but writing overwhelms me. I have so many ideas and it is difficult for me to get them all down coherently. My brain works faster than my fingers can type, leaving me feeling like I can’t clearly translate my thoughts to words on the page. The sections of this post are just as much for me as they are for you. I divide my writing into baby steps and before I know it I’ve written a 1000 word post or a 50,000 word book. Having a plan isn’t anti-woo-woo “the Universe will fulfill my intentions”, it’s both a spiritual and logical methodology to working with the Universe to co-create the life you want.
You DO need a plan.
I love it when a plan comes together. ~ Hannibal Smith, The A Team
I tried for years to change the trajectory of my life. I was unhappy to say the least. I worked in an industry that was outright hostile towards females, I was in an emotionally abusive marriage and I had no identity beyond the title “Mom”. I desperately wanted to breath, my life felt like I was trapped under the blankets and fresh air was all I wanted. My desire was to write, share and build a life that was truly mine rather than what other people expected from me. I read The Secret, practiced visualization and built a vision board. I set a ton of intentions. I prayed. I waited patiently. Nothing changed. Ten years later I was still in the same job, under the same blankets and I had lost faith in manifesting anything other than the status quo. And just like in a novel, a crisis happened.
I came face to face with ugly truths about my marriage that I had been trying to ignore for years. I was forced to come up with a plan and it had to be broken down into baby steps. My sanity, my soul and my children were depending on it. I gave myself 30 days to get out. I set my intention—I will be in my own house surrounded by peace within 30 days–and then I sat down and crafted a plan. Day by day I had action items to complete to fulfill that intention. And you know what? For the first time in my life I manifested exactly what I intended to. Looking back I am so thankful for that very difficult period in my life. It is always through struggle that we grow. I am also thankful to the Universe for teaching me the power of intention partnered with a 30 day plan.
What is so special about the number 30?
It is a part of the sacred circle of life. A circle has 360 degrees. That circle can be divided into 12 parts each equaling 30 degrees. Circle is also where we get the word “cycle” from. Cycles control our worldview to a large extent. There are calendars, seasons, fiscal and economic cycles, life cycles and all are based upon the circle. The circle is the geometric expression of absolute completion and infinity. It symbolizes the continuous, yet fixed, nature of life, energy and matter along the timeline, says Cliff Droke, of Gold-Eagle Investing.
The lunar cycle is 29.53 days and gave the ancients a month (the word month comes from the root word for “moon”) equaling 30 days. The ancient world of math and sciences, as well as modern mathematics and astronomy, are based upon the 360 degree lunar ecliptic. Ancient calendars all used a 360 day year, 12 months of 30 days based upon an astronomical/lunar, rather than a solar model calendar. The Romans knew that there were actually 365 days in a year yet still used a calendar of 30 day months. The extra 5 days were just added on to the end of the year, not residing within a month at all. The Romans considered these days as extraneous and even wages were paid based on a 360 day year. The Mayans, Babylonians, Sumerians, Zoroastrians, Greeks, Hebrew, Celts, Norse and Chinese all utilized the 360 day year with 30 day months. It was, and continues to be, a sacred number in cosmology and religion.
Numerologists identify the number 30 as the number of change. It is a exciting synthesis of 3 and 0, coupling the power of the divine (0) with the creative energy of manifestation (3). Thirty signifies growth and achievement, it is a milestone age that many cultures view as coming fully into your adulthood or power. Jesus began his ministry at age 30 and was betrayed for 30 pieces of silver, a U.S. Senator must be at least 30 years old to serve and, according to Albert Camis, it is also when the modern person comes to truly understand the meaning of time and the brevity of life.
Changing your life 30 days at a time.
Since that initial crisis-inspired 30 day change (getting my own place and leaving the abuse I had lived with for 20 years), I have used 30 day plans to accomplish things that I never dreamed possible. Things like: finding love again, becoming an author, starting a blog, changing careers, building an off grid homestead with my family, ditching the poverty mindset I had lived under my entire life and growing into the kind of woman I always wanted to be (but never thought I could be). All of my books, courses, workshops, workbooks and retreats are built upon this 30 day concept. It is my hope that each 30 day journey you embark on will lead you that much closer to your true path.
Shannon, the 30 Day Coach